What online friend are you?

How can one not have absolutely anybody to talk to. That is one question i habitually ask myself.

Is it because one is boring?

Or one is plain outright ugly.

*Scoffs*

But maybe its because there just isn't any need to talk at all. When two acquaintances strike up a online conversation, it usually runs its course past the mundane questions before fizzling out to boredom and slience.
It is definately easier to stop a conversation online. One just needs to stop responding to the repeated appearance of "hello? you there?" and the irritating shakes of nudges and to end it all up, go offline!

Easy.

So what is keeping that person from deleting 95% of his IM buddy list? After all, we only speak to a select few on a regular basis. The rest are just mere acquaintances and third degree friends. But having a long buddy list is important to the individual. It helps delude the mind and boost esteem that one is popular and has a large social circle. As such, one will actively try to engage and strike up conversations to be pathetically sociable to strangers that barely interact with the individual.

Truth as it seems, is always less rosy.

How to we improve the situation then. Firing off conversation windows and aggressively PMing everyone that comes online immediately will just make people avoid or worst, block oneself. There must be common interest for the stranger to be on the IM buddy list, be it a camp or post-drunk/clubbing activity. The key foothold is to build on that interest and branch out to other topics like " Is boxers or briefs better? " or " Name your poison. I like my Chivas neat. " Topics on "friends girlfriends" or "bdsm desires" are best left for a later timing when a stronger relationship exist. Being too pushy or mindlessly responding/throwing out dumb one answer questions will not help either.

Maybe I do need to defragment my IM buddy list into two list.
" Who talks to me " and " Everybody else ".